Jennifer Lyon

Thursday, January 19th, 2012
My New Reality

Yesterday was another lost day for writing.  Broken Leg Boy and I spend the day running around-which is a process with crutches and a wheelchair. We went to his college which  is about 40  miles away from where I live to talk to the disability department and see if BLB can manage school.

School starts next week.

Yeah…probably not but we’ll see what BLB’s final decision is in a day or so.  This is hard for him to lose a semester. And I can’t fix this for him, damn it.

But whenever BLB gets down, we have a sure fire cure–Bailey Dog! We went by BLB’s house (where Bailey lives). When  Bailey saw him, he started to cry with excitement. I swear it’s like watching those returning war vet videos.

Just to give you a visual, here’s Bailey protecting BLB right after he came home from the hospital.

Bailey insists on laying across him in the bed or wheelchair.  It’s magic, seriously.

So maybe I’m losing a day here and there (and everywhere!)  of writing, but it’s harder on BLB to face losing an entire semester of college.

And anytime I need a serious reality check? I have a casual friend whose husband had an accident many years ago and is paralyzed.  So I remember to count my/our blessings!

10 comments to “My New Reality”

  1. Viki S.
    January 19th, 2012 at 3:49 am · Link

    I really feel for your son. Missing school has got to be awful for him. Any chance he can pick up classes over the summer so that he isn’t a full semester behind?
    Bailey is so sweet in that photo. You can see it in his face – his concern for “his” boy.

  2. B.E Sanderson
    January 19th, 2012 at 8:22 am · Link

    Oh man, that totally blows. Isn’t there some way for him to take online courses or something? Maybe there are courses at another college that are online where the credits will transfer. I know Colorado State has online courses where you don’t have to be a ‘registered student’ but some of those still count toward degree programs. If you need any help looking into anything, let me know. Like I joke with my husband – if I can’t find it online, it can’t be found.

    Yay for Bailey! And yay for the Super Mom! Yeah, those reality checks will get you. I’ve been laying around whining over something totally sucky (but trivial in the scheme of things), when a friend told me her brother has stage 4 cancer. It really put the problem in perspective.

  3. Jen Lyon
    January 19th, 2012 at 11:08 am · Link

    Viki, yes he can go to the summer session if he doesn’t need the second surgery. He usually takes a summer class anyway. I just keep reminding us all that this is a detour in life and we’ll all get back on the road to our futures.

    Bailey really was worried. Bailey is relaxing as my son improves. It’s uncanny how much that little dog senses.

  4. Jen Lyon
    January 19th, 2012 at 11:13 am · Link

    B.E., I don’t think that will work. He can’t get the online classes at his school, it’s too late. And he’s at the junior level so he’s pretty much done all his transferable work. We’ve been on the phone and in meetings with people, and so far, that hasn’t been an option.

    I’m not super mom, but thanks. Mostly, I’m doing what has to be done. Bailey however, is pure magic for making us all feel better.

    I’m hoping you’re not facing anything serious. And oh no for your friend’s brother! That is terrible, and heartbreaking. But stage four can be survivable depending on the type of cancer. Still that is a hell of a reality check. I’m sending all my good wishes for them.

  5. Silver James
    January 19th, 2012 at 11:13 am · Link

    I’m with B.E. Check with the college about on-line courses that he could take to help fulfill at least some credits so he’s not a full semester behind.

    It’s so frustrating when our kids hurt physically and/or emotionally and there’s not a darn thing we can do to fix it. We’re moms. We’re SUPPOSED to fix things! It’s hardwired in our genes, dang it!

    Bailey is such a sweetie and I know he’s a comfort to all of you. (Said as I *kick* the 150 lbs. of black and white fur laying across my feet, LOL) You’ll find time to write soon. Me, too. That’s something else hardwired in our DNA. ;)

  6. B.E Sanderson
    January 19th, 2012 at 12:59 pm · Link

    Nothing major, Jen. Especially considering what you’re going through. Just academic probation for the kid and working on ways to bring her grades up. Typical college stuff. Sorry the whole online thing won’t work for your son. If there was a way I could help, though, I’d totally do it.

  7. B.E Sanderson
    January 19th, 2012 at 1:00 pm · Link

    BTW, doing what has to be done is what makes a super-mom. ;o)

  8. Viki S.
    January 19th, 2012 at 2:30 pm · Link

    I agree with B.E. :)

  9. Jen Lyon
    January 19th, 2012 at 7:02 pm · Link

    Silver, at least he’s keeping your feet warm!

    We’re getting better with the decision today. BLB’s health and recovery comes first. The online courses at his school are full, and there doesn’t seem to be other options. But he’ll manage. This is a detour, not a full road block.

  10. Jen Lyon
    January 19th, 2012 at 7:05 pm · Link

    B.E., ah. That would worry me too, of course. But it’s the first semester, and the kid is on a huge learning curve. I suspect that you’ll figure it all out. College really is a huge adjustment. One of mine took awhile to get into the swing of it, now he’s very very close to his degree.

    LOL on the super-mom. I don’t feel like it, but I appreciate the support from you all!

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