Yesterday at lunch, Wizard and I were talking. I honestly can’t recall what we were discussing, but I can pretty much guarantee sarcasm was involved. Around here, sarcasm is a second language.
But what I can recall was that Wizard was taking a drink of water when I said something and he laughed, then choked (mildly) while still laughing.
It made me feel AMAZING. And later, I thought–wow were about a year and a half away from four decades of marriage, and I still get that glow when I make Wizard laugh. Or he makes me laugh.
We aren’t the most romantic couple with huge gestures, flowers and sexy vacations. But we can make each other laugh, and in the long run, I think that is the best kind of romance…and the most lasting.
September 1st, 2021 at 5:55 am · Link
Bingo. If you can still make each other laugh after all those years, you’ve got it goin’ on. We were cracking each other up the other day and I was laughing so hard I was crying. Those are the best times. I don’t think you necessarily need the huge gestures to make a marriage work. They’re nice and all. But laughter is crucial.
I don’t know if you guys do this, but we have tons of inside jokes that if other people heard us, they wouldn’t get why we were laughing. Which somehow makes them all even funnier. It’s awesome. =oD
September 1st, 2021 at 8:07 am · Link
YES! Yesyesyesyesyes. What both you and B.E. said, Jen. Laughter is the glue. The “romance”? It fades. But laughter keeps you young and vital and seeing your partner gasping from laughter is a balm to the soul. Inside jokes are totally in side the parameter. (Pun maybe intended. Give me a break, I’m still working on my first cup of coffee.)
So yeah, laughter is totally romantic and all of us who share that with our significant others are blessed. Here’s to all the laughs! To the good jokes and the bad jokes, to the inside jokes and the outside jokes and the dad jokes. Life would be so boring without them all! 🥰
September 1st, 2021 at 2:48 pm · Link
That is so true! Making one another laugh is the best part of our marriage too. And I’ll take you up on laughter being romantic because we don’t do the typical stuff either. We vacation maybe every 10 to 7 years and we’ve only been on one alone.
Tomorrow youngest is taking me (hubs isn’t going. He’s taking care of Spunk) to NY and middle is driving himself for step-father’s memorial service at my brother’s church on the Indian reservation. My mom is not going to be there. She is too frail and upset. She will have another memorial after she has her surgery and has recovered. Tomorrow will be a long day since we will be driving back. Both boys have to work Friday.
Have a great afternoon!
September 1st, 2021 at 3:45 pm · Link
B.E., I agree, laughter is crucial. Isn’t it amazing how we can getting into laughing fits like that?
And YES to the inside jokes! I’ve included that in my talks on building intimacy between hero and heroines. That’s a great point!
September 1st, 2021 at 3:53 pm · Link
Silver, it really is a good feeling when we can make our partner laugh. It can be a release from stress too when life’s problems rain down. Wizard and I have laughed when there was nothing else we could do but laugh at the absurdities of life.
I know what you mean by romance fades, although I think it shifts into something more real in everyday life–like picking up the other’s prescription on your way home from an errand, or leaving out the ingredient they hate in a recipe–the little daily things that mean love more than romance
September 1st, 2021 at 3:57 pm · Link
Viki, laughing endures after the vacation fades so I call that a win.
It’s a very hard week for all of you. Your poor mom. My heart breaks for her, and for you and your family. My condolences of losing your step-father, and I hope the service is a comfort. I can understand why it’s not the right time for your mom to go, and maybe planning another one will help her through some of the shock, grief and adjustment. My condolences to all of you–hugs.