Yesterday we saw Wizard’s out-of-state uncle, aunt, cousin and his wife. It was great to see them and we enjoyed ourselves. While talking, we learned that cousin’s wife is flying back earlier than the rest. So I asked her why.
She was kind of sheepish, but answered that their dog if 14 now, and she doesn’t like being away from him too long even though they have a trusted friend dog sitting. I totally related to that, and I thought it was a pretty healthy attitude. Especially since I know they do a lot of activities and travel whenever they wish. She just wants to spend as much time with their dog while they have him so she was going home a bit early, leaving her husband to have an extra day with his folks. It sounded perfectly reasonable to me, and showed that she appreciates the time she has left with her aging dog and knows that it’s not forever.
Then I contrasted that with taking Maggie into the vet the day before. While I was paying, a woman came out of one of the offices crying after having to put her animal to sleep. All of us grew quiet, respectful of her space and sad as she left. Then I turned to the office staff and said, “I’m so sorry, I know it’s hard on all of you too.” All true, but then another lady with a small dog who was at the vet’s just to get his toenails clipped, said, “I’d commit suicide.”
We were all shocked. That’s not a healthy attitude. It’s devastating to lose an animal and I’ll be inconsolable for a period of time when I lose my girl. But…I don’t dwell on that, and I certainly don’t live in fear like the lady in the vet’s office. Instead I just try to be like our cousin’s wife and remember (most of the time, LOL!) to appreciate her for whatever time we have.
It was just weird to have to polar opposite experiences with animal lovers back to back. And in a way, it reminded me not to dwell on the sad or bad things that can happen in the future. With some aging and unwell family members, that’s a good lesson. The only time we’re guaranteed is now, and it’s up to us to make the most of that time.
So that’s my musing for today Happy Wednesday!