Jennifer Lyon

Wednesday, September 21st, 2022
Very Random Wednesday

So we’re just here waiting for the time and place to sign the docs on the house and close. Maybe. It’s a bit of a nail biter when people are waiting to the last second to do their jobs and then asking for things they’ve had for months, or suddenly don’t understand what they do have. But we are being patient and staying positive. Truthfully, we know everyone is trying, but they are all overworked and pressured beyond reason (in my opinion). Especially with some staff turnovers that have happened and that is likely the reason we’ve had to resubmit documents.

So will we close on time??? Even my crystal ball is fogged with confusion at this point. I should know by Friday’s post. What I do know is that we have to be out of this house by the end of the month. I’ve held onto my “Leo” temper for 8 months now, and I really don’t want to test it :-)

Which reminds me of a totally unrelated story about my temper. I don’t usually yell, but I solve problems. Like the time a hospital threatened to “release” my mom who had three fractures in her spine. So I had taken her in and had to go home to get my kids from school. My sister left work early and went to be with her, when the hospital doctor told her they were sending my mom home. This is a typical tactic that I won’t get into here. but I was familiar with it. When my sister called me in a panic and told me that, my temper snapped. I told them to her to tell them to go right ahead and release her — I’d have a newspaper reporter and photographer (before cell phones and going “viral” was a big thing) waiting there to document it. My sister to her credit, trusted me and told them what I’d said. I wasn’t bluffing, I was royally pissed and I’d have done it in a heartbeat. Once my sister told them that, the hospital had an instant change of heart and did the right thing. That’s what my temper looks like when I’m pushed beyond my limits.

All that said, I believe being nice and listening to others gets more done in my experience. It also makes me like myself better :-) Another part of that story with my mom — over the next months as my mom got sicker she had to go into a full time care facility. When she got scared, was in pain and couldn’t get help, she’d threaten with, “I’ll tell my daughter when she gets here.” Now my mom had a high pain tolerance and sometimes wouldn’t realize how much pain she was in until it was really bad. I knew this, so when I’d walk into that situation, it was easy to resolve because I had a good relationship with the nurses and staff there. I’d taken the time to get to know them, and since they dealt with older sick patients everyday, they’d taught me a lot about how to handle things. Being there often, along with being nice, kind and asking questions, solved way more problems then my losing my temper ever would have. These people took as good of care of my mom as they could in that kind of setting, and I made sure to appreciate that every single day. They’d call me when she had any issues no matter how small. They’d never have done that if I’d been a jerk to them.

Which has nothing to do with the house :-) But I really do know everyone is trying hard, and I have faith it’ll all work out.  Probably!

Do you have any random thoughts you’d like to share?

6 comments to “Very Random Wednesday”

  1. B.E. Sanderson
    September 21st, 2022 at 5:19 am · Link

    Gah, that’s horrible about your mom. I totally understand why you had to threaten to get the media involved. I’m glad you found a place for your mom with good people you could trust. :hugs: I’m sending all my extra positive thoughts your way for a smooth, timely wrap-up on your house and an easy transition.

    Yesterday, I was alone in the office for the last hour and we got a delivery. So, I opened the garage door to the delivery area. After the guy left, the damn door wouldn’t close. I’m calling everyone I can think of and they were offering suggestions – all of which I tried. Finally, I called the owner and he gives me the number for an associate who lives nearby. Dude shows up, walks around looking at things, and I demonstrated how I pushed the button and held it like I was told. (Something I’d already done like a dozen times, cuz like I couldn’t leave with the building wide open like that.) Wouldn’t you know it, the damn door came down right then. Felt like a moron and probably looked like one, too. The only thing I can think of is that there’s some kind of faulty motion sensor that he tripped and I didn’t. Ah, par for the course these days.

  2. Silver James
    September 21st, 2022 at 7:08 am · Link

    Crossing fingers 🤞🏼 the house situation smoothes out! I have a weird temper. Only and I used to get into screaming “flash” temper arguments. She’d yell. I’d yell. Five minutes later, everything was fine. Drove LG nuts. When dealing with stupid people, I go cold and calculating. As my daddy used to say, “You don’t hold a grudge, you get even.” My usual threat is to hold up my “mom” finger and say in a very calm, controlled and cold voice, “Excuse my while I call my husband. He’s an attorney.” That usually works. Only calls that my “Dead Man Walking” voice.

    It’s only Wednesday and this has been a week of little happening. The big news around here is the “death” of Bedlam–the annual football game between OU and OSU. OU is leaving the Big 12 to join the SEC and golly-gee, they don’t have room in their non-conference schedule to play the Cowboys until like 2035 or later. That’s 100+ years of football rivalry down the drain. Even THEIR fans are pissed. Whatever. Speaking of grudges, I hope their decision to switch conferences jumps up and bites them in the butt.

    That’s it for me. I didn’t get much done yesterday and need to double up today. Happy Hump Day!

  3. Viki S.
    September 21st, 2022 at 2:50 pm · Link

    You have done an amazing job holding back your LEO in check all this time with the many twists that have come up. My LEO would have need a tranq. We’re all with you in praying that nothing gets in the way of closing. We’re excited for you too 😊.

    It’s so true that most of the time not letting “LEO” out is a good thing. But there are times, like the instance you mentioned above where they wanted to release your mom from the hospital, where the ranging lion is needed.

    So, my refrigerator/freezer broke. It’s not going down to 38F/0F. It’s only 2 years old. I called Whirlpool because you have to have an authorized repair person do all work to get any type of warranty. The first appointment is next Thursday. With no recourse, I took it. The repair people text me later and said they may be able to come out this Thursday between 9-12. I screamed YES! I don’t have another refrigerator so this has been awful. I am also addicted to ice water. I drink it 20 hours a day. Sure hoping that they can fix the thing and not need to wait on parts. I don’t know what we’ll do if the later turns out to be the case.

    Youngest is thinking of us going to see my mom Saturday.

    Middle’s wife and her girlfriend are headed to England and Scotland Saturday for 2 weeks. Neither have ever been over seas and the girlfriend has never flown. Should be an interesting trip. Middle will be at home with the cat and dog.

    Have a wonderful afternoon.

  4. Jenn
    September 21st, 2022 at 4:16 pm · Link

    B.E., thanks on my mom. She was a trooper though so much in her life, and I hope I have that much strength when I need it. One hurdle on the house was crossed today, so we’re hopeful.

    Of course that happened on the garage door to the delivery area! I can’t explain why, but it’s like the electronics have trolls in them that just mess with us. I’m so sorry for the extra stress in your day! But is sures sounds like you’re getting a lot of experience with “putting our fires” in your day job. You must handle stress really well!

    Hope today has been much smoother!

  5. Jenn
    September 21st, 2022 at 4:25 pm · Link

    Silver, see I can’t even comment on the whole mother-daughter thing cuz I had all boys. I usually yelled when they were playing and I was trying to be heard over the din. Boys are noisy! But girls are verbal and I can see why heated would spring up quickly. As long as they resolve quickly and no one is holding a grudge, then it’s all good.

    The “Excuse me while I call my husband, He’s an attorney” is priceless! I love that! I wish I could see it as long as you’re not mad at me :-)

    Okay that whole OU situation has me thinking they’ve forgotten their fans, and that’s usually death to any organization. I’m really sorry for all the fans of both teams who really enjoy (with a LOT of passion) the annual game.

    Hope you’re getting a lot of work done!

  6. Jenn
    September 21st, 2022 at 4:29 pm · Link

    Viki, On some things, my temper flashes, but the house thing we fully understood would be a long haul. That really helps. Plus we sold our house to the most understanding buyers in the world, and that also helps!

    I was VERY protective of my mom towards the end (so was my sister!). But most of the time, people were kind and helpful.

    What an awesome trip for middle and his wife! I hope the have a fabulous time! Interesting that she’s never flown and her first flight is overseas :-) But it’ll be worth it!

    Hope the guy can fix your fridge on the spot tomorrow! That kind of stuff is always majorly inconvenient.

    Happy Wednesday!

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